This week on The Talk, co-host Julia Chen confessed that she gave in to pressure from her boss and a potential agent to have surgery that would make her eyes less Chinese and more Caucasian. They felt that the eyes she was born with were not expressive enough for an anchor's position. The plastic surgery seemed to work for her because she excelled in her career and her co-hosts applauded her for doing the right thing. So when is it okay to change who you are to please other people?
If my boss tells me I look too black, my nose is too big,
or my hair is too nappy to make it in the workplace, where do I draw the
line? Do I succumb to racist peer pressure for the sake of a job? We're
talking more than not dressing business professional, we're talking
about the features a person was born with. My dad's eyes, my mom's
smile, the light spots on my legs I got from my grandmother, the moles
that were passed down from my maternal great grandmother's native
American side, all these things make me who I am. It makes me unique. Is
changing my outside appearance even worth it.
What about kids who
are bullied? I've seen stories where parents who have a kid who's being
teased takes their child for cosmetic surgery to correct the 'problem'.
What lesson is that teaching? Yes, they're right, there is something
wrong with you, let's fix it. What does that do to a person's self
esteem? Why not give kids the ammunition to get past bullying?
it okay now to let other people's opinions affect what we see when we
look in the mirror? Do I really want to disfigure myself because my
looks offend some jerk who really needs a trip to Human Resources? What
about the thirteen year old girl who gets a boob job so the kids can
stop teasing her about her flat chest?
Is a job or fitting in even
worth that much trouble? If I have to make all these changes to fit in,
maybe it's not a place where I really want to be.
Life is tough,
we all know that. There will be bumps, bruises, and roadblocks along the
way. How nice is it to face all those challenges and still be intact
when we reach the finish line? True, Ms. Chen got her dream job, but is
the victory still sweet when she looks into the mirror and sees a
totally different person staring back at her? How does it feel to reach
your goal, knowing you took the easy route?